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Archive for January, 2012

Grief

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Good grief is followed by relief. The anticipated grieving has now found its way to me as my Tia Gladys has now passed on; her soul is no longer in her physical body. She is at peace; she now is experiencing pure love and in the complete presence of everyone and God. Grief in many ways is a relief.

Grief allows us to release our hearts and our tears. The tears are of love and remembered joy that will never physically transpire again. Some of it is also regret. Then the relief comes as we become more and more fully aware that our loved ones are truly at peace and fully present with God. Love and blessings, Tia Gladys. You are now in peace. ♥ 

Moderation

What is moderation? Calmness of mind; equanimity; as, to bear adversity with moderation. It is also imposing due restraint as in eating with moderation.

The heart is great which shows moderation in the midst of prosperity.
Lucius Annaeus Seneca

Throw moderation to the winds, and the greatest pleasures bring the greatest pains.
Democritus

(from: Brainy Quote)

I feel moderation is holding back after I know I have had enough or have done enough. It is also living within your means. It is NOT doing things in excess or extremely. It is being grateful, feeling blessed and at peace with what you have or can afford. Living in moderation is really a satisfying place. It brings bliss.  I invite you to ponder about moderation. What role can moderation have in your life?

Compassion

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Compassion is made up of the Latin prefix “com-“, which means with, together or in association; and, the suffix “-passion,” which refers to Jesus Christ’s sufferings on the cross or can mean suffering. Simply put, compassion means in association with suffering. Wikipedia describes compassion as a virtue in which the emotional dimensions and capabilities of empathy and sympathy for the suffering of others are considered as part of love.

Compassion to me is holding the hand of another who is in pain either emotionally or physically (or both) and being present for him or her. You are there completely to support another being with unconditional love. Compassion is holding another physically or simply holding his or her intentions during times of distress and anguish. Compassion is one of the most loving gestures we can have for each other. It is BEING love to another human being no matter what the circumstances are. It is more than saying, “I LOVE YOU.” It is SHOWING, “I LOVE YOU!” 

I want to dedicate this blog to my tia Gladys…I LOVE YOU, SO VERY MUCH tia Gladys!!!!

My aunt Gladys has always had compassion for everyone she has come in contact. She has been LOVE for so many people. I am so happy knowing that now everyone has compassion for her as she goes through this period in her life. 

PLEASE, have compassion for all your loved ones and then go beyond. May GOD and LOVE be with ALL of your loved ones especially those who are ailing or in crisis. Thank you for reading my blog. God Bless You and May the Light of Love and Life be with you and your all those you hold dear to your heart always. With love, joy and blessings…Angi

Caring

It is the little things we do in life that really matter. It is those precious moments when we give of ourselves to another living soul. It is in doing the small things that really make a big impact with others. Is it the imprint of that positive moment in their minds that can life one’s spirits? Yes, it is.

It is those small gestures of love that make a world of difference in the life of others, like a smile, polite conversation, a compliment or getting someone a glass of water. It is a display or action that show we care. It is taking care of another. It is caring for another person. And, it doesn’t take much, just a moment in time. Next time you are out and about, I propose you think about how you can show you care and then do it. It will touch your heart just as much as it touched theirs. Caring is sharing; and, sharing is caring.

Reflection

What is reflection? To me, reflection is careful consideration, looking back on a time or event in our lives, which often gives us insight to how things could have been different or perhaps even handled better. To look back on how we handled an event in our lives can be quite useful for future events. It helps us grow and develop as a person; and, evolve as people, especially when we reflect with a different perspective or frame of reference.

When I reflect back on specific events in my life, I see clearly other ways I could have acted. Using this information allows me to act differently if I did not like the outcome of a previous experience. Reflection is a great tool and can bring more joy into one’s life as long as you see each experience as a life lesson or blessing through the reflection and NOT as a regret or mistake. 

Transformation

Transformation is traditionally defined as a marked change, as in appearance or character usually for the better. Transformation to me is more than just change positive or otherwise. It is a completely new form of yourself (reinvented or recreated), where you cannot go back because of new awareness. It is like waking up for the first time someplace different and never being able to go back. New experiences and new information has changed your outlook and perspective. Transformation involves your spirit, your heart and soul. You can no longer can look at something the same way again because of this new awareness and knowledge.

Most of the time this can be for the good; but, sometimes it can be negative. I am not going to dwell on the negative.  When you discover something new about yourself or someone else or something else,  you come to expect it. For example, I discovered that I a new way of combining digital art with art made on paper. This awareness has transformed the way I do art. Will I go back to just scanning in my little water colors without added things? Most likely, not. Embrace transformations, as it expands you!

Resilience

Bouncing back and recovering from a disheartening situation is resilience. Some people are more resilient than others. How do they do it? I believe resilience is developed over time through overcoming difficult times in our lives, whether it be the death of a loved one or coping with hurtful words. Seeing the blessings in our situation is one way to do this. I propose that we ask ourselves questions like: What can I learn from this? What is good about this? What is the gift or opportunity in this situation? What is funny about this? This will help us gain a different perspective of a difficult situation and allow us to grow from it to become more resilient. Bouncing back from a challenge in our life inspires others and ultimately brings joy to everyone.

Surprises

Surprises often bring joy! I got a lovely surprise in the mail today.

A mystery friend sent me a card filled with inspirational words!

I love surprises. Below is the front of the card my mystery friend sent:

I did not even realize today is Friday the 13th (of January). It has been a pleasant day filled with one lovely surprise after another. Most of the surprises came from the friendly interactions I had with many people today both on-line and in person. All the people with whom I interacted face to face were not people I knew, but each one of them were super nice. I love exchanging pleasant words and gestures with them. It is the small things in life that make a world of difference in our hearts. I wonder how many small surprises I can create for others in the future to bring joy into their lives? Some things you just can’t plan. They just happen by surprise. 

Chutzpah

I want to write about determination; more specifically, chutzpah. Chutzpah is having the nerve or backbone to stand up to an issue or someone whether you are justified or not. It is that determination, passion and drive that sets you apart from others. Other words for chutzpah are: cheekiness, insolence, impertinence, impudence, crust, freshness, gall, utter nerve, shameless audacity, effrontery. The word has also been able to be interpreted as meaning the amount of spunk or ability that an individual has. In more traditional usage, chutzpah is invariably negative; but, I want to address the positiveness of having that ability to be outwardly confident and assertive. It takes a certain amount of chutzpah or spunk or assertiveness to rattle the chains of the establishment. Particularly those in regards to bullying.

There are still many out there who believe that children just need to grin and bear the brunt of teasing, but to what level. How far must they keep taking it and bone up? Those ears still hear the negative words, which will keep playing out in the mind of a child. Sure, maybe as an adult we can more easily shrug it off, but children are so eager to please and need to be praised and valued.

Through being valued, they will value others. There is already too many other negative events that children are exposed to daily. They do not need to be affronted by teasing, taunting, and name-calling. They certainly do not need to be violently assaulted with physical contact or objects. Why are children so bold as to feel it is permissible to put down others and to even assault another peer? Where are children picking up the idea that it is okay to be mean? Children are great observers. They watch adults do it. And, they watch adults turning the other way when children engage in the teasing, taunting and other forms of bullying. So, bullying behaviors become acceptable in the minds of children. Would you say that bullies have chutzpah? Eh, maybe.

I certainly feel that those who are willing to stand up to any injustices in this world do have chutzpah. It takes a certain amount of spunk to stand up to a bullying punk. When a child shows spunk, then bullies no longer have the power to affect the former victim. I would love to see everyone who cares anything about children (as well as adults) create environments where bullying is simply no longer effective. It would be rendered powerless if we provide a climate where bullying simply has no use or place. If the environment is warm, you no longer need to wear a coat. Right?

How do we create a climate where bullying is no longer “needed” or “useful”? We create learning, teaching and work environments where love and kindness are readily acceptable and recognized behaviors. In those places where love and kindness is appreciated, you will see love and kindness appreciate in value. Who doesn’t like being praised. We are all eager to please and be pleasing when the environment in which we are makes it acceptable and valued. Smiles beget smiles. Kind words begets kind words. Loving gestures beget loving gestures. All these positive behaviors are passed forward to the next person. Children WILL pick up on this and they will imitate it.

I think it takes a lot of chutzpah to get that type of campaign rolling. I am willing and ready to take the steps toward that one blog at a time; one person at a time; one smile at a time; one loving and kind gesture at a time. Each time I put myself out in my community to be helpful, caring , loving and kind, I am making our world that much better with chutzpah and determination.

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