In the face of adversaries, people are “tested” or “tempted” to react negatively. This can actually be a self-destructive behavior; however, when using such situations to practice restraint, tolerance, love and respect it can become a learning experience. It would be the BEST use of one’s energies. When one uses an enemy’s words and actions as fodder for growth, then that person has the opportunity to evolve into a loving, compassionate and tranquil person.
Yes, it is easier said than done; furthermore, each person’s situation is different. Consider a situation where one’s adversary creates an intolerable situation at work such as magnifying all of this person’s mistakes to their immediate supervisor. Instead of getting upset or doing the same thing to the adversary, this person uses the situation to improve his or her skills and track record.
In the long run, the immediate supervisor will see what a great asset he or she is because they are able to learn from their mistakes and the situation. And, the adversary no longer empowered. That person wins! You can win, too! Consider Dalai Lama’s words of wisdom, “In the practice of tolerance, one’s enemy is the best teacher. “
- Tolerance…or is it? (julesrant.wordpress.com)