Life is more joyful when you can bend and detach yourself from specific outcomes.
~Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
I had to be very flexible today and it was not easy. In fact, I was quite upset until I was able to detach myself and bend. I had to look at my challenge with fresh eyes. Only then was I able to see many possible solutions and release the negative feelings I was experiencing.
It was one of those days when nothing seemed to work; but, after assessing the situation, I was able to resolve it. It is not the outcome I expected, but it is satisfactory. Everything that happens in our lives, happens for a reason. We will not see it until after the situation and other outcomes have come to pass.
I can breathe easier, now; and, I am more joyful than I was earlier. By allowing ourselves to be flexible, bend and detach ourselves from specific outcomes, we will be able to move through life easier and happier.
- Come Out and Play (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Making Memories (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Never Versus Always (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Adventure (Dr. Angi’s Law #6) (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Kindness (Dr. Angi’s Law #7) (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Bad Moments (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
The end-product is simply the by-product of my joy. ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
What is art and writing to me? Should it be more expressive and intuitive or deliberate and technical (commercialized)? Should it be for the creator or the spectator? Should it be about the process or the end-product?
In my heart and soul I feel art and writing are expressive and intuitive processes where deliberate technique needs to take a backseat. It is the only way I know how to be creative. My favorite art pieces are the ones that had no plan…they simply evolved. My favorite articles are those that were written in the moment; however, I do find I need a concept map to outline my major writing projects that are over 100 pages long.
My art is more for the creator and less for the spectator. If I visually delight others as much as I delight myself in the process, then I am TWICE blessed. I write about what I most want to read. I keep the reader in mind, me. If it is boring to me, then I know others will be bored. I interject humor when I can, because I enjoy getting a chuckle when I read.
I wholeheartedly feel that art and writing are about the processes and not necessarily the end-products. When the end-product turns out AMAZING erstwhile I delight in creating it, then I am in total ecstasy…but for me, it is all about the process. The end-product is simply the by-product of my joy.
- Enjoy the Process (stephanieromero.wordpress.com)
- writing process (shortlittlebits.com)
- writing is a process (intothesift.com)
- Writing Habits (cristianmihai.net)
- Art-what Is Art-what Should Art Look Like (myritingboard.com)
- Building a Work of Art (asolitaryramble.wordpress.com)
Happiness is permitting our inner children to come out and play! ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
Sometimes we forget who our inner children are. I know I have at times, especially during times of worry or stress. How do we reconnect with our inner child? Here the possibilities are endless, but you have to be open to receive them.
For most it is as easy as reflecting back to your happiest childhood memory and reliving it in your mind or in the moment. If it is going out and splashing in rain puddles or flying a kite, then visualize it. Maybe it is baking cookies with grandma or going to the beach for the first time. Some of these activities you can simply do again and recapture the joy.
Smells, sights and sounds can trigger the happiest of memories. By reconnecting with our inner children, we are tapping into our innocence, our trust, our faith, our love and our joy. The simplest activities, events or things were thrilling and joyful. Permit your inner child to come out and play; and, I am certain you will experience happiness just thinking about it.
Always, always, always, give up worries, bad habits, negative thoughts and feelings of hurt and anger. And always give into Joy and Delight!
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
Winston Churchill is noted for stating this compelling quote, “NEVER, NEVER, NEVER GIVE UP!” But, I would like to amend this piece of wisdom. Whilst it is important never to give up those things we feel are important; it is proper to give up worries, bad habits, and feelings of hurt and anger. And, one should ALWAYS give into joy and delight…especially when it stems from love and kindness.
Yes, I agree with Winston Churchill in that we should never, never, never give up when it comes to our dreams, goals and passions. Perseverance and courage definitely have an important role in our lives; however, when it comes to worries, anger, bad habits, complacency and hurt, it is time to give those up! Giving up those things that no longer serve us will ultimately bring more joy in our lives.
Don’t let fear stop you; it is selfish NOT to share your gifts and talents with the world. ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
At times (like right now) I need to remind myself that I need to share my talents; it is selfish of me to hold back. God bestowed upon me many wonderful gifts to impart with others. He does not want me to hoard them and judge them. Who am I decide if I am good enough? That is only for God to decide. My words, my art, my insights are important. If I need to hear and see it, then most likely others need to read and see them, too.
We all have gifts, talents and experiences that are unique to us. No one else has the same exact ones. We connect and interact with others, build relationships and communities when we share our unique gifts and experiences. Empower others to see your value. Allow them to appreciate you and your unique talents. Don’t let fear make you appear selfish! You are amazing! Go out and share your gifts, talents and experiences. And, keep in mind, you cannot please everyone, but you can please yourself. Do what you please and you will find you will delight others.
- Forgiveness, a selfish act (erikarenea.com)
- Jonathan Edwards on Love and Selfishness (sethsoasis.wordpress.com)
- Time will Transform… (Dr. Angi’s Law #3) (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Trust Your Creative Flow (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Gotcha! (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
- Bad Moments (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated. After all, the word treat is a very positive one. Who doesn’t like getting a “treat”? Even our pets love treats! My puppy-dog Sasha responds with body wiggles (not just tail wags) to the word, “treat!”
Delight in treating others with love and respect. I receive such a positive charge when I get a smile out of others by expressing a compliment or simply smiling at them. You never know what kind of day they have already experienced, and this may just be the perk they needed to get through the rest of it.
Today, a gentleman held open a door for me. I always feel special whenever I am treated with respect. I looked him in the eyes, smiled and said, “thank-you.” And, he said, “you’re welcome.” It was such a positive experience. It made the rest of my day a bit more pleasant. Treat others (not just tweet…chuckle) and spread around the positive; and, notice how much positive is around you and is returned. Such positive treatment between people creates a loving community.
- The Little Things (essentjewels.wordpress.com)
- The Treat Tree (fiveminutecitizen.org)
- How you’re treated… (somethingyoumissed.wordpress.com)
- Ten Things that Instantly Make Me Happy (akissofbliss.wordpress.com)
Bad moments do not make you a bad person. ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
We all have our “moments”, but those moments do not make us bad people. Each of us have our own unique sensitivities and coping skills. Another’s actions may or may not evoke a reaction from me; but, it would evoke a reaction from someone else. That reaction does not make that person bad. It is only when he or she is not sorry for the reaction or bad moment that would taint his or her character.
Empower your loved ones. Give them the opportunity to forgive you and to need them. People feel valued and appreciated when you consider their emotions, ask for forgiveness and/or help. Our vulnerabilities such as bad moments make us human. How we choose to act after our bad moments is what really counts.
Every day affords us the opportunity to make memories.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko
Every day affords us the opportunity to make memories. It is our choice to make them good ones even when facing the greatest of challenges. The solution lies in looking beyond the immediate situation. Consider these questions: What are the worst and best possible outcomes? Can I handle the worst? If not, can I get support or find resources? What is the opportunity or lesson in the present situation? How would I like this situation to be remembered?
When we are with loved ones, family and friends, we want to create the best of memories by engaging in fun and worthwhile activities. We need to resist the urge to “fix” our loved ones; and, simply let them be. We only need to love and delight in their company. A situation would be hurtful and unfair if we brought up unpleasant histories. We only have the present moment to live. So, why not make the most of present and create wonderful memories.