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Archive for November, 2012

My Joy…Their Joy

What brings you joy, ultimately brings joy to others. ~ Dr. Angi K. Orobko

Most often, I find when I am doing what I really enjoy, I bring joy to others, whether it is in my art, in my writing, in my teaching or in my creative life coaching practice. My enthusiasm and joy radiates from me to others. Guess what? Your passion and enthusiasm will shine through in those things that you honestly love to do! Really!

in ALL those ACTIVITIES that  you really LOVE to DO!

It is a joy to watch someone truly get into his or her groove, no matter what the task, job or activity. It is a lift to be around people who love their jobs from your local grocery cashier, to the postal worker who delivers your mail, to the police officer who is directing traffic around an unsafe situation, to the teacher who instructs your children, to the news reporter on your local television station, and so on and so forth.

Also, if you choose to put joy in your work at hand and really appreciate it, you will get a lift from your job. It will almost feel like playtime instead of WORK. So, as we close out November, the month of gratitude, consider putting in a bit of joy and gratitude in all you do! Let us greet December as the month of the joyous and generous spirit. December is such a magical month.

Big Heart…Small World

As my heart grows bigger, the world gets smaller. Physical distance is not an obstacle in the spiritual realm where love dances and plays. I hope each of you feel the same way. I am reminded of the song of Disney fame, It’s a Small World After All:

It’s a world of laughter
A world of tears
It’s a world of hopes
And a world of fears
There’s so much that we share
That it’s time we’re aware
It’s a small world after all

It’s a small world after all
It’s a small world after all
It’s a small world after all
It’s a small, small world

There is just one moon
And one golden sun
And a smile means
Friendship to every one
Though the mountains divide
And the oceans are wide
It’s a small world after all

It’s a small world after all
It’s a small world after all
It’s a small world after all
It’s a small, small world

GRATEFUL for my Mother…Her Hands

Today I wish to express my deepest appreciation for my mother. She has done countless deeds to make our lives wonderful. She is a phenomenal wife to my father and an extraordinary caretaker for my sister and I. Her gifts and talents are numerous. Her love for us is endless. There is nothing in the world I would not do for her. Yet, she expects nothing in return but our happiness. My mother is the epitome of unconditional love for which I am profoundly grateful. Thank you, mommy.

Her Hands

© Maggie Pittman

Her hands held me gently from the day I took my first breath.
Her hands helped to guide me as I took my first step.
Her hands held me close when the tears would start to fall.
Her hands were quick to show me that she would take care of it all.

Her hands were there to brush my hair, or straighten a wayward bow.
Her hands were often there to comfort the hurts that didn’t always show.
Her hands helped hold the stars in place, and encouraged me to reach.
Her hands would clap and cheer and praise when I captured them at length.

Her hands would also push me, though not down or in harms way.
Her hands would punctuate the words, just do what I say.
Her hands sometimes had to discipline, to help bend this young tree.
Her hands would shape and mold me into all she knew I could be.

Her hands are now twisting with age and years of work,
Her hand now needs my gentle touch to rub away the hurt.
Her hands are more beautiful than anything can be.
Her hands are the reason I am me.

Source: Her Hands, Mother Poem http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/her-hands#ixzz2DYWQnTVE

Home and Heart

Home is where the heart is. You make your home wherever you are spiritually connected. A home is so much more than four walls and a roof. A home is where love is found in abundance; it is encouraged and appreciated. My home is filled with many delightful memories and tokens of love. It is warm and inviting, as well as, fun and joyful; furthermore, if I were ever uprooted from my house, I would always carry my home in my heart because of the love and joy I have experienced in my home. What does your  home look like?

Good for Something

To simply be good and do the right thing is respectable and adequate; however, to truly be good for a cause and for a purpose would be noble and magnanimous. Consider at this very moment, for what do you truly live your life. Do you live for love and kindness; do you live for family and honor; do you live for friendship; do you live for democracy; or do you live for all of these things and more? Or, do you simply obey the rules and conform to society? I invite you to think about what truly inspires you to live as you begin each day of your life.

Nothing is Unimportant


Everything in life is important! Everything we do, everything we say and everything that we are is important! Not a moment is wasted. Everything has a purpose no matter how big or how small it is. And, nothing should be taken for granted. Appreciate it all!

Take a Stand

I have found that when I have strong convictions for certain issues like addressing negative behaviors and bullying with respect and kindness, my life has direction, purpose and meaning. I am happy. I am not floundering around seeking what is not in my heart.

Some people, who are uncertain where they stand with life issues will vacillate, which often leads to dissatisfaction, unhappiness and disappointment. Fulfilled lives start with a strong belief and/or a passion for something, which gives you direction. Consider your own heart, your beliefs and your passions. What excites you? Let this lead your actions and you will find satisfaction and joy.

If overcoming bullying is your passion, too, then please seek me, Dr. Angi at HEARTS T HAT CARE (www.heartsthatcare.net).

Learned In Life…

Yesterday, I came across a little book that I have had for years (almost 20 years) entitled: The Most Important Thing I’ve Learned in Life. It is a book compiled of quotes from notable and everyday people alike on just that…what they felt was the most important thing they learned in life. The most intriguing part of this compilation is that a sixteen year old young man named Beau Bauman created it. He started this project at the tender age of thirteen. I am delighted that he was able to follow through on this wonderful project during the most active years in a teenagers life. (He could have easily put it aside to do a number of other activities that young boys do.)

When Bauman started this project, he collected mailing addresses of a wide diversity of notable people such as Stephen Hawking, Phyllis Diller, Arnold Palmer, and Mother Teresa. He plunged right into this project with youthful optimism. You got to love his Chutzpah (courage and enthusiasm). Most of the responses came via postal mail, with a few face-to-face and phone responses, which is not surprising given that he did this project back in 1993. If he did this today, he would have been facilitated by the internet.

Here are a few of my favorite quotes to the question, “What is the most important thing you’ve learned in life?“:

“What I have learned from life is to make the most of what you have got.” ~ Stephen Hawking, professor of mathematics, physicist, and author; University of Cambridge; England

“The cheapest gift I have to give is kindness, and it is the best.” ~ Bob Kerry, Senator from Nebraska

“Believe you can do anything you want to do if you work hard enough to achieve it. If you believe in yourself so will others.” ~ Graham Green, First Secretary to the Ambassador of Canada

“Happiness is not a string of miscellaneous adventures or experiences but an attitude. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy and strong. The amount of work is the same.” ~ Francesca Reigler, artist

“The purpose of lie is not to win. The purpose of life is to grow and share. When you come to look back on all that you have done in life, you will get more satisfaction from the pleasure you have brought into other people’s lives than you will from the times that you outdid and defeated them. “ ~ Rabbi Harold Kushner

“Never be afraid to ask a question, especially of yourself – discovery is the mission of life.” ~ Brian Kates, author, journalist

“If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we are not really living. Growth demands a temporary surrender of security. It may mean giving up of familiar but limiting patterns, safe but unrewarding work, values no longer believed in, relationships that have lost their meaning. As Dostoevsky put it, ‘taking a new step, uttering a new word, is what people fear most.’ The real fear should be the opposite course.” ~ Gail Sheehy, author

“Spending time with my family; watching my children grow up. Try t make the world a better place; be part of the solution not the problem. Have your work help others. Study–learn–grow.” ~ Ted Turner, founder of CNN and TBS

“If you think you are beaten, you are;
If you think that you dare not, you don’t;
If you’d like to win, but you think you can’t,
It’s almost certain you won’t.

If you think you’ll lose, you’ve lost;
For out in the world; you’ll find
Success begins with a fellow’s will–
It’s all in the state of mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are;
You’ve got to think high to rise;
You’ve got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

Life’s battles don’t always go
to the stronger or faster man;
But soon or late the man who wins
Is the man who thinks he can.”
~ Unattributed poem submitted by Arnold Palmer, professional golfer

“The most important thing that I have learned early in life is to know God loves me and to love others as  He loves me. “ ~ Mother Teresa of Calcutta

Today, my response to this young man would be: The most important thing I’ve learned in life is: Love comes in many forms, the less conditional it is the more blissful you feel. Furthermore, the gift of love has to be given without strings attached, no expectations. Only in this way will you feel blissful, tranquil and content.

Back in 1993, when Bauman compiled his quotes, I was nearly as young as he was. My answer most assuredly would have been different; but, maybe not hugely different. I had just finished college and was starting my career. I most likely would have responded on the topic of patience, courage and perseverance. Life will give you what you give it. The more you put into anything, the more you get out of it; however, that line of thinking implies expectation.

It is better to pursue your dreams with passion and love, but without expectation. Simply said, enjoy the moment, savor the journey and delight in the process. How would I answer Bauman’s question tomorrow or next year, I have no idea because as I experience life, I learn new lessons. Perhaps there really is not one most important thing to learn in life. Life’s lessons are ongoing; they accumulate and bring us wisdom to our next experience.

My question to all my readers, “What is the most important thing you’ve learned in life?” and let me add, “has it changed from yesteryear or even yesterday? Will it be different tomorrow?” Also, “what advice would you give to your younger self if you were ever given the opportunity to travel back in time?”



Counting my Blessings!

Counting my Blessings!
a poem by Dr. Angi K. Orobko

I am blessed to be alive,
to have all ten fingers
and  to have all ten toes.

I am blessed to have
the gift of sight and
to smell wonderful fragrances
with my beautiful nose.

I am blessed to have
two sturdy, supporting limbs
that are attached
to my nearly perfect feet.

I am blessed to have
the gift of a caring heart
that is healthy and warm
and never skips a beat!

I am blessed to have
two strong arms
to hug and embrace
and carry a load.

I am blessed with
two wonderful hands
that allow me to wave,
to paint and to write this ode.

I am blessed with a great family:
supportive parents, a loving sister,
and an amazing husband.

I am blessed with all the people
in my life, from all over the world, the internet
and in my community whom I consider friends.

I can go on and on with an inexhaustible list.
But I know you get the idea that I FEEL so very, very blessed!

Happy Thanksgiving!


Okay, so it is less than 24 hours to Thanksgiving Day; and, soon after that the kick-off to the craziest shopping day of the year. But all the shopping and pressure is not what Thanksgiving and the upcoming holidays of Hanukkah, Yule, Christmas and Kwanzaa are all about. The focus of these  holidays center around love, appreciation, hope, birth and rebirth.  We get to enjoy and love each other.

Yes, one of the ways we in the Western modern world express love and appreciation is through material gifts, which leads to “shopping,” but it does not have to be the focus of our holidays. The best expression of our love and appreciation can be the gift of time, the gift of loving words and actions, and the gift of enjoying each other’s company. Right? As the end of the song, “Under Pressure” by Queen and David Bowie, expresses…

Can’t we give ourselves one more chance
Why can’t we give love that one more chance
Why can’t we give love give love give love give love
give love give love give love give love give love
‘Cause love’s such an old fashioned word
And love dares you to care for
The people on the edge of the night
And loves dares you to change our way of
Caring about ourselves
This is our last dance
This is our last chance
This is ourselves
Under pressure
Under pressure

Let us give ourselves that chance to be love for others during this holiday season. Let go of the stress and worry. No more pressure! Those you love and who love you will not be disappointed if all you give them is your love and time. In fact, you may be relieving them of pressure to give you material things. Now, that truly is a gift. Enjoy each other’s company! Love, appreciate and enjoy each other! Happy Thanksgiving!

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