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Love is a Fire…

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Joan Crawford stated, “Love is a fire, but whether it is going to warm your heart or burn down your house, you can never tell.”

I beg to differ. While I believe love to be a powerful emotion not unlike fire, I also believe we have a choice, where emotions are concerned. Yes, it takes a certain amount of self-discipline to not get caught up in our stronger emotions, but we are most certainly the captain of our own hearts. In February of last year I went into detail about 3 types of love (agape, philia and eros). Agape love is the purest and unconditional form of love.

Agape love would never burn down your house; however, conditional love does have the potential to hurt your partner, your family and yourself. Love with attachment to characteristics, physical traits, events and other circumstances is seemingly destined to “burn down your house”. The good news is that all you need to do is to make a mind shift and change your perspective. Love and appreciate yourself and your loved ones for who they are. Let go of the conditions and release the circumstances, which are temporary.

When you are disappointed or upset with yourself or your loved ones, examine carefully why you feel that way. In the grander scheme of life, does the circumstance of that moment really matter. So what, you or your loved one made a poor decision, or did something seemingly embarrassing, or fill-in-the-blank… when you truly love yourself and family unconditionally, the hiccups, mistakes, embarrassments, obstacles do not matter. Your house does not have to burn down. Open up your heart and communication with your loved ones. When you are ready to forgive the momentary lapse of reasons (your own as well as others), you will feel a huge uplifting. You will breathe easier and find joy.

Remember: Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV)

Let me add my own quote, “Love is a light that ignites the hearts of others while maintaining a spark in your own.” When you can say, “I love you” to others and truly mean it without conditions and attachments, you WILL feel joy. It give me great delight to express my love to each person who reads my article today. I deeply appreciate and love you! Happy New Year and Happy New Life!

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Comments on: "Love is a Fire…" (19)

  1. Think not that you can direct the course of love, for love ifit finds you worthy, directs your course … Khalil Gibran, The Prophet

  2. I LOVE this one. 🙂 and like GS above, it is so Gibran from “The Prophet”… Thank You.

  3. Hi Dr. Angi,
    Thank you for the beautiful artwork and the write-up on LOVE. Johnny Cash sang “Love is a ring of fire, a never ending desire”, but that misses the point you are making. Happy New Year to you also and to all your readers.

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  6. “Never let a problem to solve become bigger than a person to love.” True love is never a ‘because’ but a ‘no matter what’. Remembering to love is enough to change every obstacle that comes. Thank you, Angi! And, truly honestly I love you!!!! Happy Tuesday! ~ Love, Bobbie

  7. Those are very beautiful words and I agree with you 100%.

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  9. Love is a fire, and only if, you experience it, will you know it is a fire needing no containment, it is one fire that must keep burning…..No reasons given, love just is….

  10. What a lovely and very insightful article. And a gorgeous, emotional picture to start it all off with! 🙂

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  12. Kinetically shining, brilliantly shining, so-radiant-that-if-you-aren’t-prepared-for-it-it-might-blind-you shining, gorgeous, beautiful light.

    I feel like a new person having met you through your words. Your mind is a diamond.

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