Doing the Avoid Dance…

 

Is avoidance really something that should be shunned as laziness, lethargy, slovenliness? Or, is it really fear; or, perhaps it is stubbornness; or, it is simply the characteristic of being a perfectionist? Why do we do the Avoid-DANCE?…is it a daunting task that we are resisting?…or is it the fear of the unknown? The specific reason of the avoidance is unique to each of us; however, what will move our spirits to begin.

We often find that the task is not really so daunting, but we just need to get started and dive right into our project. Let us plunge into the Lambada of doing…and getting it done. DONE is better than PERFECT. Most of the avoidance comes from wanting to do something perfectly because we have been taught that “if it is worth doing, then it is worth doing right!” Really? Yes, that was what had been preached to many of us as children. I can still hear that voice in the back of my head loud and clear.

Often, it is just a matter of getting it done. You can always go back and edit and refine your work. You are not going to please everybody, ever! And, that is great, because we are all different. Viva la difference. Love and live in embracing difference. If each of us were the same, then we would not need each other!

What one does mediocre (in the mind of the doer) is going to be better than anyone else who cannot or will not do it at all. In fact, many will think you are a freaking genius! Yes, there will always be someone better than you. They may or may not be satisfied with your efforts.  So what; it got done! And,  the AVOIDance becomes COMPLETENESS, which will ultimately bring joy and the sense of success. So, what avoiDANCE are you doing? How can  you turn this avoiDANCE into a JOYFUL tango of COMPLETION? (Re-post from February 3, 2012…AVOIDANCE!)

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Do More…

Do more than exist, LIVE.
Do more than touch, FEEL.
Do more than look, OBSERVE.
Do more than read, ABSORB.
Do more than hear, LISTEN.
Do more than listen, UNDERSTAND,
Do more than think, PONDER.
Do more than talk, SAY SOMETHING.

– John H. Rhoades

What holds people back from DOING MORE? For most people, it is FEAR! These individuals need to give themselves permission to DO MORE. Fear is such a party-pooper. Fear holds people back from TRULY experiencing life to its FULLEST!

Why do people play the “what-if this or that happens” game? Certainly NOTHING exceptional will happen to these individuals if fear holds these people back! Consider the following…why simply just exist, touch, talk, when you can do so much more? LIVE! FEEL! SAY SOMETHING!! Do more than plan, TAKE ACTION!!! MOVE! DANCE!! And be open to POSSIBILITIES!

AVOIDANCE!

Is avoidance really something that should be shunned as a laziness, lethargy, slovenliness? Or, is it really fear or perhaps stubbornness or characteristic of a perfectionist? Why do we do the Avoid-DANCE?…is it a daunting task that we are resisting?…or is it the fear of the unknown?

Perhaps the task is really not so daunting, but more that one just needs to get started and take the plunge… a  plunge into the Lambada of doing…and getting it done. DONE is better than PERFECT. Most of the avoidance comes from wanting to do something perfectly because we have been taught that “if it is worth doing, then it is worth doing right!” Really?

Sometimes, it is just a matter of getting it done. You can always go back and edit and refine your work. You are not going to please everybody, ever! And, that is great, because we are all different. Viva la difference. Love and live in embracing difference. If each of us were the same, then we would not need each other!

What one does mediocre (in the mind of the doer) is going to be better than anyone else who cannot or will not do it at all. In fact, many will think you are a freaking genius! Yes, there will always be someone better than you. They may or may not be satisfied with your efforts.  So what; it got done! And,  the AVOIDance becomes COMPLETENESS, which will ultimately bring joy and the sense of success. So, what avoiDANCE are you doing? How can  you turn this avoiDANCE into a JOYFUL tango of COMPLETION?

Courage

Courage is related to feelings of the heart as it is our ability to face or confront our fears, our pains, dangers, uncertainties and intimidation. When we have the heart to face our fears and pains, we are building confidence and our ability to love. Love takes courage.

Most often it takes courage to let go of someone we love especially when our loved one is tired of fighting a debilitating disease such as cancer. It takes a tremendous amount of love and courage to let them go. God bless everyone in this position. God, please gives us the courage to let go. God please give us the courage to celebrate their lives. Amen.