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One Moment At A Time

I often need to remind myself to be gentle and patient…with myself.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

One moment at a time is all I can handle. In all honesty, it is all any of us can handle. The past has lapsed and cannot be and should not be relived. The future is yet to come; and even with the best of plans and intentions, it is only in this very moment that we live. We live one moment at a time.

As I look ahead to the next few days, I see many events that will be taking place. I choose not to stress over these events, because I can only live these events one moment at a time. I will be exactly where I need to be when these events take place. I have the calendar out and I am sketching up a doable routine for myself, which will include walking between 45 to 60 minutes with my father 3 to 5 times this week.

I am looking forward to each and every item I intend for myself; and, I will no longer flounder around in my days going from one activity or project to another without some structure. This will afford me the sense of accomplishment…a start and finish. Progress will be made, because I will put for a specific amount of time to each activity or project. As I stated in another blog article (To Be Gentle and Patient…September 23, 2012) , I need to remind myself to be gentle and patient…with myself. We can only live one moment at a time; furthermore, nothing great was built in a day.

Put an End to Deprivation.

It is extremely important that we take care of ourselves. Are we meeting our basic needs of food, exercise, personal hygiene and sleep? For me, I find I may occasionally skip a meal, deprive myself of nighttime sleep and/or skip out on my daily exercise routine. I need to challenge myself to do more to take care of myself.

My intention this week is to really examine areas in my life where I feel deprived. What do I need more and/or less of? What do I really want at this time in my life? Joy and gratitude are a large part of my life;  however, there is a hint of a feeling that I need something more. I believe I am craving a more structure and routine. And, I would like to find a way to create this for myself in such a way that I will stick with it.

As organized as I am in many aspects of my life, there is room for growth. I still feel periods of overwhelm, which can be eliminated through organization, structure and routine. There is so much I want to do and accomplish. And, I wish to do it all without depriving myself of my needs.

I challenge you to do this with me. Let us look at our lives together. What do we need more or less of? I am going to examine my projects and chores, my needs, my time and create a daily/weekly plan. This seems like a great way to start off my week. I will check back with you tomorrow.

 

 

Smiles

 

My sister took this phenomenal picture yesterday morning. It is a moth! It was on her back porch screen and it clearly has smiles on it! I see at least two of them, do you?

Smiles, to me, are an outwardly expression of the love and kindness in our hearts. This moth is wearing its smiles and it goes to show you that smiles are all around us. Some smiles are more obvious and direct than others. We only need to be receptive. Can you feel the smile on my face as I you read what I wrote?  I hope so! Smile, it is good for your heart, your soul and your well-being. 🙂

I wish I knew then what I know now…

 

I am upon the Eve of my Birthday. This is a great time to reflect upon the things I know NOW that I wish I knew five, ten or more years ago. The idea for this article evolved after reading a blog written by Insight: My 25 Rules of Adulthood.

With each day and every new experience I feel I have grown wiser. Passing this wisdom down to my younger self would have been awesome, but was I ready to hear it or understand it? Probably not. I will never know; however, here are a few of the things I have learned thus far in my life’s journey and perhaps you can gain some wisdom from it.

I wish I knew then what I know now:

  1. The difference between IMPORTANT and URGENT; not everything that is urgent is important.
  2. I should only value what I think of myself; and, not what others think of me. And, remember that I am FABULOUS just by being me.
  3. Happiness is a choice; so is fun, joy, love, etc. I can choose to be positive or negative!
  4. Acts of love and kindness deliver more than I might expect as my heart grows bigger and bigger with each gift.
  5. The path will have obstacles, which are there to teach lessons, provide experiences and assist in my growth and development.
  6. In most instances, there is no right or wrong, only different perspectives.
  7. Time does indeed heal all wounds and grant me insight if I give myself enough time and space from my hurts and wounding.
  8. There is a reason for everything…I have lived through many challenges that I now see I needed to go through in order to be who I am today.
  9. I am always where I need to be.
  10. To listen to my inner voice, that whisper that comes when I am sitting quietly, especially outdoors in nature. 
  11. Life truly is an adventure, a never-ending, journey…I just need to show up to participate.
  12. If I truly want something, passionately and with clarity, I will get it.

What have you learned so far in your life’s journey? Please share in the comments.

 

What Do Others Think Of You?

What others think of you is none of your business. The only thing that is important is what you think of yourself.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

What makes us wonder what others think of us? Is it our need to be loved? Is it the fear of being alone? The ironic thing about it, we attract loved ones into our lives when we can let go of the concern of how others think of us. We can relax and be ourselves. People enjoy being around other people who are confident and not concerned about what others think of them, which ultimately invites gossip….”did you know he said this about you; and, she thinks this about you?”

Oh, sure, who doesn’t enjoy getting praise and compliments, but, does it really matter what others think of you? As long as you are true to your character, your talents, your passions, then the opinions of others does NOT matter. Simply be genuine, authentic and honest with yourself. Be the best you know how to be. Do what you love and delight in your being. The only important thing is how you think about yourself, your level of confidence and your self-esteem. Furthermore, after all is said and done, you are the one who has to live with yourself. It is your life. Enjoy it.

Bare Necessities!

When we take care of our bare necessities…nutrition, fitness, rest and engaging activities, then we are re-energized and inspired to nurture others.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

I was able to truly take care of myself today, especially in the area of resting. I have been going and going and going like the Energizer bunny. Recharging my batteries did wonders for me today!

Now I feel like I can take on my tasks with a blissful heart and move forward in all my projects. It feels great. Are you taking care of your bare necessities?  How is your nutritional intake? Are you getting in some fitness training? Are you getting enough sleep? What engaging activities are inspiring you? Sometimes it is good to check-in with yourself and make certain you are getting everything you need.

Tomorrow is the kick-off to another school year for our grade-school aged children. Some have already started school. This is a fabulous time to re-evaluate ourselves and our families. May it be a blessed year for all our loved ones in the school systems. May it be filled with wonderful and engaging activities that will inspire our children to be the best they can be. I know our God will watch over the children and all those involved in their lives, and be there for them as they are receptive.

Is Yours Worth Catching?

Nothing invites more positive attention than a great attitude along with a captivating smile! ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

Attitudes are truly contagious. I make an effort to keep my attitude positive especially in the face of negativity, challenges and emotional vampires (people who literally exhaust you emotionally). When I continue to share love and kindness in all my actions with no expectation of anything in return, I ultimately feel better. My energy level is higher.

Have you seen this in your own experiences? Go into any situation with a positive attitude and you will feel great afterward. It is a double blessing when you receive a winning outcome, especially if the others involved come out of it with a positive attitude. This builds positive relationships with people.

On the flip side, when you go into a situation with anger or another negative attitude, most likely you will infect others. They will be negative right back at you. That would benefit no one! Nothing invites more positive attention than a great attitude. Awareness is key; keep your attitude in check. Remember, attitudes are contagious. Is yours worth catching?

Bouncing Back…

Bouncing back from a challenge in our life inspires others and ultimately brings joy to everyone.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

Bouncing back and recovering from a disheartening situation is resilience. Some people are more resilient than others. How do they do it? I believe resilience is developed over time through overcoming difficult times in our lives, whether it be the death of a loved one or coping with hurtful words. Seeing the blessings in our situation is one way to do this.

Consider the following questions like: What can I learn from this? What is good about this? What is the gift or opportunity in this situation? What is funny about this? This will help us gain a different perspective of a difficult situation and allow us to grow from it to become more resilient. Bouncing back from a challenge in our life inspires others and ultimately brings joy to everyone.

Success and Happiness

Success cannot be measured in material things and money; these do not guarantee happiness. Success and happiness come from valuing your abilities, celebrating the positive, appreciating the present and being flexible.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

What is success (to me)? Success is my ability to appreciate each moment, to celebrate the positive points in my life, to face the challenges head-on, to be open to learn new things, to be decisive and goal-oriented, and to look forward. Success is what I make of it, as thoughts become reality.

I make a point to think positive thoughts. I try not to entertain negative thoughts especially those of others. Only my thoughts truly count. I count my blessings and appreciate the present moment.

Each hour affords us 3600 seconds to which I wish to use wisely and positively; because once they are spent, they are gone. I cannot get those seconds back. We are not guaranteed time. So, we need to appreciate each moment we have and use each moment to promote joy and love in our lives and in the lives of others.

I try to celebrate the positive aspects of my life. This helps me to stay focused to the important anti-bullying work that I do. Reliving the negative would only serve to distract me sending me into a downward spiral to despair. Why go there? Each of us has an abundance of positive moments in our lives that we can embrace and celebrate. This brings joy to our lives, which is followed by productivity and success.

I embrace new learning experiences and face challenges head-on. I am open to new ideas and opportunities to create a solution. I can detach myself from old ways of thinking when they no longer serve me. Possibilities are endless to those who can see beyond what they think they already know.

Success comes when I have a vision. I look to the future. My past mistakes have given me the fortitude and experiences from which to build. I have learned what does not work. Success becomes inevitable. Happiness follows as I have grown to appreciate myself, my abilities, the present moment and all the loved ones in my life.

Making Memories

Every day affords us the opportunity to make memories. 
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

Every day affords us the opportunity to make memories. It is our choice to make them good ones even when facing the greatest of challenges. The solution lies in looking beyond the immediate situation. Consider these questions: What are the worst and best possible outcomes? Can I handle the worst? If not, can I get support or find resources? What is the opportunity or lesson in the present situation? How would I like this situation to be remembered?

When we are with loved ones, family and friends, we want to create the best of memories by engaging in fun and worthwhile activities. We need to resist the urge to “fix” our loved ones; and, simply let them be. We only need to love and delight in their company. A situation would be hurtful and unfair if we brought up unpleasant histories.  We only have the present moment to live. So, why not make the most of present and create wonderful memories.

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