Stay Positive!

Even with the best of plans and intentions, things may go wrong. That is when we most need to stay positive. ~ Dr. Angi K. Orobko

You can only control how you will act and react to your circumstances. I am a co-chairperson to a library charity event that is coming to fruition tomorrow and Sunday. I carefully laid out a timeline and contacted everyone I needed to contact, getting confirmations and clarity. Unfortunately, a few challenges presented themselves yesterday and today. One involved a community announcement in the newspaper, which as abbreviated to the point of misleading the public to where the our library charity event will take place.

This morning, we were challenged by the weather. The rain made it difficult to set up our tent. We were, also suppose to get 7 to 8 tables for our event. The coordinators involved in getting us tables had documented that we only needed 3. This came as a surprise to me. I had to stay positive so we could work through this challenge. Between the coordinators and my team of wonderful volunteers, we came up an amicable solution. Stay positive and not blaming anyone helped to eliminate this challenge.

Attitude is everything when faced with negative situation. Keeping level-headed and positive allowed everyone involved to think clearly to co-create a solution. Negative emotions would have only muddled the situation dispensing energies that could have otherwise been put to good use. This morning, I had to remind myself, that the situation was beyond my control, but my reaction to it is not. I asked myself, what will get me more tables, smiles or frowns? Smiles won.

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Simply BLiss-behaving

BLISS-behaving is a term I coined to describe how I enjoy behaving…BLISSFULLY!!! It is fun to BLISS-behave as you are spreading your bliss everywhere you go. It is a positive way to be!

I indulge in happiness and bliss whenever I can even when I may start out feeling blah for whatever reason (the weather or an ailment). As soon as I engage in bliss-behaving, I begin to feel more energetic and joyful. One of my favorite things to do to bliss-behave is to play my favorite music, which is usually upbeat and energetic. Then any activity I do becomes play instead of work or a chore.

Bliss-behaving also describes what I do when I engage others in positive experiences like paying one a compliment, holding open a door, sharing a Gift of Love or simply a smile. It is playful and positive action where love and kindness are spread. And, the more I bliss-behave the more joyful I feel!

What does simply BLISS-behaving mean to you? What can you do to bliss-behave?

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The Positives and Negatives of Social Styles

Before looking at the pros/positives and cons/negatives of each social personality styles that are here,  let it be said that these social styles are generalizations of how one MIGHT act or be in CERTAIN situations . It is NOT how one would ALWAYS act. People have the power of choice on how they wish to be and act.

Each social style has attractive qualities, as well as, dark qualities. For example, a knowledgeable person can come across as being a know-it-all. Be aware that everyone has their positives and negatives. Often these traits balance out; and, understanding both sides of these social styles assists a person to acquire an appreciation for all people.

Alpha

Positives: knowledgeable, intellectual, industrious, gifted, deep thinker, inquisitive, analytical, competent, highly observant,  conscientious, great with words, gives sincere praise, innovative, inventive, loyal, aesthetic, visionary, idealistic, orderly, self-disciplined, rational, attentive to detail, hard-working, conceptual, determined, deliberate, independent, expedient, private, fascinating

Negatives: unemotional, critical, unrealistic, arrogant, sarcastic, egocentric, indecisive, legalistic, picky, unsociable, too abstract, skeptical, stubborn, workaholic, perfectionist, uncooperative, show-off, impatient, caustic, eccentric

Beta

Positives: efficient, self-confident, decisive, stable, practical, realistic, responsible, dependable, conservative, linear thinker, prepared, loyal,  honest, respectful, productive, organized, thorough, consistent, traditional,  punctual, sees big picture, leader, courageous, active, optimistic, strong-willed,  independent, focused, proactive

Negatives:  pushy, bossy, insensitive, inconsiderate, domineering, resentful, opinionated, harsh, proud, tough, hostile, inflexible, unimaginative, controlling, overly predictable, close-mindedness, rigid, hurried, prickly, stubborn, impatient

Gamma

Positives: diplomatic, willing, agreeable, easy-going, likable, respectful, reluctant leader, compassionate, concerned, imaginative, supportive, optimistic, patient, level-headed, calm, friendly, mediator, great communicator, intuitive, genuine, good listener, good counselor, enthusiastic, passionate (about causes), flexible, peacemaker

Negatives: co-dependent, smothering, martyr, unrealistic, lenient, self-doubting, indecisive, awkward, avoids conflict, emotional, easily hurt, busy-body, giving too much advice, withdrawn, fearful, too idealistic, overly involved, nosy, conforming, unsure

Delta

Positives: outgoing, ambitious, charismatic, friendly, stimulating, responsive, conversationalist, enthusiastic, carefree, compassionate, dramatic, generous, good sense of  humor, calm in chaos, spontaneous, quick thinker, creative, flexible, direct, stylish, motivating, fun, resourceful, great performer, confident, convincing

Negatives: restless, impulsive, manipulative, ignores rules, disorganized, insecure, unproductive, unrealistic, unpredictable, weak-willed, excitable, undisciplined, obnoxious, loud, reactive, exaggerates, egotistical, overly risky, flamboyant, unreliable

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