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Dreams Choose You

Consider the following: ALWAYS trust your dreams. They have chosen you, as much as you have chosen them. Upon reflection, I see in my life how this is really true. I feel that every significant up and down in my life plays a role shaping my dream, which is to be an advocate of love and kindness, a source of inspiration for others and a champion of the tenderhearted. My dream has chosen me.

I had to experience certain unpleasant events in my life as to have a sense of what it was like to be bullied, emotionally wounded and be in a place of vulnerability, so I can relate to others who have been wounded. Take a look at your life and reflect. What are the repeated events that bring forth the strongest emotions? Do you feel deeply connected to these times in your life? Do they stir a sense of purpose in your life?

Does this in any way, shape or form point  you in a direction of your dream or your calling in life? Do you see how certain events have made you more courageous and/or more compassionate? What are those things for which you feel most strongly? How do these relate back to your childhood or more recent past? Do you see a connection between your dreams and your life experiences? Do you get a sense of joy when you think about your dreams? Trust your dreams and they will ultimately serve to bring you joy. 


Have you ever experienced repeated words, signs or images that occur in different settings and at different times? Have you seen patterns come up in your life? Is it déjà vu, voodoo or magic? Perhaps it is just a coincidence? Or maybe it is synchronicity. All those coincidences, where you see something in one venue and then it repeats over and over again in other venues, converge into something meaningful.

For example, you first dream about enthusiasm and wake up feeling enthusiastic. Throughout the day  you keep seeing and hearing the word “enthusiasm” in very unusual venues and media, like in a magazine you picked up to read while waiting for an appointment, then you hear it on the radio, and then you see it in artwork displayed at the local library when go to renew your book. You wonder if there is any significance in these coincidental events. The next day at work you decidedly engage in your duties and responsibilities with more “enthusiasm”. After lunch, your supervisor sings your praises and gives you the honor of being “employee of the month”. This is synchronicity.

The talented music artists, The Police, weaved Carl Jung’s concept of  “meaningful coincidence” into a song entitled Synchronicity I (they also wrote and performed Synchronicity II, which provides an example of this idea).  The concept of synchronicity is explained pretty well in the lyrics (excerpt below; also see video at the top of this page in the right margin):

With one breath, with one flow

You will know… Synchronicity

A sleep trance, a dream dance

A shaped romance… Synchronicity

A connecting principle

Linked to the invisible

Almost imperceptible

Something inexpressible

Science insusceptible

Logic so inflexible

Causally connectable

Yet nothing is invincible…

Synchronicity is defined as an apparently meaningful coincidence in time of two or more similar or identical events that are causally unrelated. In 1952 Carl Jung produced a detailed account of what he called “meaningful coincidences” in Synchronicity: An Acausal Connecting Principle, written in collaboration with Wolfgang Pauli, a physicist. In daunting scholarly language, it is about unrelated connection of two or more psycho-physic phenomena. This concept was inspired to him by a patient’s case that was in situation of impasse in treatment. One night, the patient dreamed a golden scarab. The next day, during the psychotherapy session, a real insect this time, hit against the Jung’s cabinet window. Jung caught it and discovered surprisingly that it was a golden scarab; a very rare presence for that climate. So, the idea is all about coincidence: in this case, between the scarab dreamed by the patient and its appearance in reality, in the psychotherapy cabinet. (from: http://www.carl-jung.net/synchronicity.html)

The concept of synchronicity is based on the idea that the individual, through the subconscious, has access to an “absolute knowledge” which is not bound by the limitations of space or time. Jung’s primary source of material for this hypothesis was to be found in his study of dreams especially those which were of a parapsychological nature.

The synchronicity phenomena show that the subconscious is able to transcend the factors or space and time. With respect to the former, it would seem that space has been transcended when, for instance, one has an accurate inner knowledge, possibly in the form of a dream or fantasy, that a friend, who is living hundreds of miles away, has suddenly taken ill. This type of synchronised experience is not at all uncommon. With respect to the time factor, it would seem that it too can be transcended. The synchronised experiences, which are of a pre-cognitive character, show this quite well.

Jung’s concept of synchronicity provides an image of a psyche, which is not restricted by the limitations of space and time and participates in the overall events of nature. With the hypothesis of synchronicity, Jung felt he had achieved, from the point of view of psychology, an understanding of the nature of the phenomenal world that was analogous to that of modern physics. Both had achieved an understanding of reality that went beyond our everyday notions of solid bodies, empty space, cause and effect, space and time. Physics understanding of this new frontier was for the most part quantitative in that it was expressed mathematically. Jung’s understanding was, in contrast to this, principally qualitative in that it addressed the problem of “meaningful parallels.”

Both views, Jung had hoped, would eventually come together creating a new unified scientific model — a new world view linking the psychic and the physical. It is a scientific goal which, given the limited knowledge of psychology and physics, is at present unattainable. Or is it? What do you think? Are we in a new age of understanding?



Doodle. What is a doodle? A doodle is a simple form of art where one mindlessly takes his or her writing instrument and marks or scribbles on his or her page creating designs, figures or simple images. Doodling can in fact be quite meditative and the images could be left for interpretation.

Doodling has also taken on a negative meaning, where one suggests a person is wasting time in aimless or foolish activity; however, doodling in fact allows a person to engage his or her mind as he or she is listening to a lecture. It is a brain boosting activity. What many have considered a distracting, time-wasting habit may actually give a person a leg up on others who do not doodle by helping a person stay alert.

According to one source: Asked to remember names they’d heard on a recording, people who doodled while listening had better recall than those who didn’t. This suggests that a slightly distracting secondary task may actually improve concentration during the performance of dull tasks that would otherwise cause a mind to wander.
(from: A Sketchy Brain Booster: Doodling URL – http://www.wired.com/wiredscience/2009/02/doodlerecall/)

An archaic definition of doodle is a foolish or silly person as in the patriotic song, “Yankee Doodle” with which many are familiar.

Here are the lyrics of the shortened children’s version of Yankee Doodle:

Yankee Doodle went to town
A-riding on a pony,
Stuck a feather in his cap
And called it macaroni’.


Yankee Doodle keep it up,
Yankee Doodle dandy,
Mind the music and the step,
And with the girls be handy.

Father and I went down to camp,
Along with Captain Gooding,
And there we saw the men and boys
As thick as hasty pudding.


Here is a fun activity to try for kicks, a doodle personality test. Get out a standard sheet of blank paper and a pen or pencil. Draw a pig. Do NOT read the following until you have drawn your pig and are satisfied with it.

Pig Interpretation
If the pig is drawn:
Toward the top of the paper, you are positive and optimistic.
Toward the middle, you are a realist.
Toward the bottom, you are pessimistic, and have a tendency to behave negatively.
Facing left, you believe in tradition, are friendly, and remember dates. (birthdays, etc.)
Facing right, you are innovative and active, but don’t have a strong sense of family, nor do you remember dates.
Facing front (looking at you), you are direct, enjoy playing devil’s advocate and neither fear nor avoid discussions.
With many details, you are analytical, cautious, and distrustful.
With few details, you are emotional and naïve, you care little for details and are a risk-taker.
With less than 4 legs showing, you are insecure or are living through a period of major change.
With 4 legs showing, you are secure, stubborn, and stick to your ideals.
The size of the ears indicates how good a listener you are. The bigger the better.
The length of the tail indicates the quality of your love life!

(from: http://www.doodle-art-alley.com/doodle-personality-test.html)

Benefits of doodling can be found at the following websites:






Doodle interpretation information can be found at the following websites:




Other wonderful doodling websites:

Doodle Art Alley

Doodler’s Anonymous



Creating Minds


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Bouncing back and recovering from a disheartening situation is resilience. Some people are more resilient than others. How do they do it? I believe resilience is developed over time through overcoming difficult times in our lives, whether it be the death of a loved one or coping with hurtful words. Seeing the blessings in our situation is one way to do this. I propose that we ask ourselves questions like: What can I learn from this? What is good about this? What is the gift or opportunity in this situation? What is funny about this? This will help us gain a different perspective of a difficult situation and allow us to grow from it to become more resilient. Bouncing back from a challenge in our life inspires others and ultimately brings joy to everyone.


Creativity is the state of mind or an innate ability to produce something new or novel by using the imagination. According to some sources, creativity is a term that generally refers to a richness of ideas and originality of thinking. Psychological studies of highly creative people have shown that many have a strong interest in apparent disorder, contradiction, and imbalance, which seem to be perceived as challenges. Such people may have an exceptionally deep, broad, and flexible awareness of themselves. (Don’t we know).

Creatives are those individuals (such as us) who invent new technologies, define new techniques, make art, establish new ideas, scribe stories, and so much more. Creatives have the ability to look at things differently, from different angles and perspectives. Creatives indulge in brainstorming ideas and usually follow-up on them unless they get distracted. I tend to get distracted from one project to the next. I love to paint, write, draw, ponder and think. I like to look at things upside down and sideways to see if I see anything new or different.

I like to approach challenges indirectly. Often if you approach a challenge by creating an environment where the challenge is no longer an issue; then you ultimately solved it. One cannot get angry if you eliminate the need for it by creating a lighthearted environment. One will no longer need his or her coat if the climate gets warm. One does not need to yell if it is there is no noise to yell over. See how you can solve challenges from this perspective. It is a creative approach to solving “problems”, which are really opportunities for positive changes.

First experiences profoundly contribute to creativity and one of the reasons why children can be so imaginative and creative. Kudos to all of you who have been able to recapture your childhood creativity and imagination. The more different first experiences we have the more creativity we develop. Exercise stimulates creativity as well. Physical activity provides more oxygen to the entire body including the brain. This stimulates activity in the brain and enliven one’s imagination. Also, physical activity promotes energy in the body. When you are energized you are more apt to think more clearly and more creatively.

Having fun and doing so-called ridiculous things can stimulate your imagination. I believe joy has a large role in evolving one’s creativity. When you are having fun, you are going to try new things and be able to see things in different ways which enhances creativity. Creativity needs fuel from various sources such as exquisite self-care, physical activity, learning new things, having fun and most importantly connecting with your inner self , others and your environment. Creativity enriches our lives and deserves our attention and appreciation. I love being creative. Creativity is becoming more valued commodity in our population. I say it is about time!

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