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New Beginnings

NewBeginnings

As we kickoff a new school year in my hometown, I like to give myself a clean slate… A NEW BEGINNING. Starting Monday, September 1st, I am challenging myself to create consistently and regularly in many areas of my life. I will be expanding my imaginative spirit in art, writing and grate-full living. I plan on documenting my progress this year in writing, in expressive art, in photography and video.

The THEME I have chosen for SEPTEMBER is NEW BEGINNINGS; and the prompt for week 1 is: EXPLORING LINES.

As I embark on this creative journey, I will share my writing and grate-full living experiences here on A Kiss of Bliss; and, I will share my artwork and art techniques on Blissful Art.

You are invited to join me. You can share your progress in the comments here on my blog or join my Facebook group – Art, Buddies And Creativity: www.facebook.com/groups/ArtBuddiesAndCreativity.  You can also subscribe to my YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/user/AKOrobko where I will be posting videos of my journey. Here is the link to the kickoff video of this challenge: http://youtu.be/YCODHqqsi-I?list=PLoCvvdbjmEyUfbBSUEXvqHU4v1uRSTGHm

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Purpose

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Purpose has been defined as:

  • The object toward which one strives or for which something exists.
  • An aim or a goal.
  • A result or effect that is desired.
  • An intention.
  • The matter at hand or the point at issue.
  • The reason why something is done or used.
  • The feeling of being determined to do or achieve something.

Each of us has a purpose, but many of us have yet to identify it. When we experience this uncertainty in our lives, it can bring about many negative emotions such as sadness, unworthiness and fear. Clarity of purpose comes from examining our personal experiences. When did we have our best moments; and, when did we experience our worst moments? What did we learn from these events in our lives?

Clarity of our purpose will come by honestly answering these questions and reflecting on our past and present. Everything I have experienced in my life has illuminated my purpose. I have gone through events in my childhood that have allowed me to become empathetic to victims of bullying and similar negative events.

I have also listened to my intuition and I have been open to receiving divine signs. Each time that I have used my gifts and skills in teaching, writing and art to express my wisdom and inspire others, I have received validation in various forms, such as appreciation, praise and opportunities to reach more people.

As you gain clarity of your purpose and focus upon it, you will be filled with positive energy and feelings. Opportunities will present themselves to you that will help you achieve and manifest your dreams and goals. I find that aligning my purpose with my talents and skills, as well as staying focused (not allowing myself to get sidetracked by other ideas) produces immediate outcomes.

If you are not exactly certain of your purpose, it is okay to experiment. Tweak your objective and see the outcome. And, be honest with yourself as your reflect upon this outcome. You WILL come to know your purpose and you will be met with a significant amount of positive energy and emotion.

Ready? To Let Go and Embrace!

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Today is the perfect day to decide what you are ready to let go, release and forgive. Take a moment and ponder. Think about your year. Ask yourself the following questions: What are you ready to let go? What are you ready to release? What are you ready to forgive?

My year was filled with many ups and downs. I am ready to let go of all the hurts, the grief, the struggle, the unnecessary drama, poor communication and misunderstanding, pretenses and phoniness, disconnect, fear, the extra weight upon my frame that only serves to drag down my high spirits and energy.

I ready to let go of my resistance to change and avoidance of new experiences. I am ready to release seeking approval from others. I am ready to let go of criticism, especially self-criticism. I am ready to release my uneasiness around certain people and new situations. I am ready to forgive all the wrongs and negative situations of my past. I am ready to let go of ALL those things and actions that no longer serve me.

2013 will be a powerful year; a year that will allow me to shake out all the old ways and habits that no longer serve me. It is a year to fully step into creative self-expression and abundant support for my dream from all that is. 2013 is a time for my vision to become a reality. I am ready to appreciate, invite and embrace love in my life, success, great health, a fit body, successful publication of my books, travel opportunities and adventures into unknown territory that will bring me prosperity. I am ready to step into my life fearlessly and live!

What are you ready to embrace, invite and appreciate in 2013? Take this opportunity to really think about it. I invite you to narrow all your thoughts from all the questions in this article into one word you wish to fully live in 2013. My word of the year is FEARLESS. (To get the step-by-step directions on how to do your own “New Year Art” go to www.heartsthatcare.net, scroll down to image, FEARLESS, and click).

Be Gentle…

We can be our own worst enemies. I find myself wanting to accomplish so much and then mentally berating myself for not meeting my daily goals. I have the choice to be gentle with myself and celebrate everything I did do! I have found that I am doing other worthwhile activities that were not even on my mental to-do list (Aside…I made a typo just now, and it read do-do list…maybe that is exactly what it is). In an article I wrote back in February I suggested creating a Ta-da List.

The point of that article was to share a couple of tools to help us gain a sense of accomplishment by creating a mental shift. The first thing we did was reorganize our way of thinking on “what we NEEDED TO DO” and then  we proceeded to reinvent or recreate the familiar honey-do/to-do lists into something fun. We discovered the best way to get anything accomplished was to create a visual organizer or map to help us focus on the main item or items among all those daunting tasks that vied for our attention.  This was a mental shift from the standard To-do List to a Map of Hocus-Focus, which made it fun and fanciful. (for more go to To Do or Ta-Da?)

This is a lovely way to be gentle with myself and others. Another fabulous way is to accentuate the positive in our lives. It is uplifting to appreciate all the wonderful people, things, and events that have taken place and count our blessings. It stirs enthusiasm and it can be self-inspiring to spark the energy we need to get us through the challenges and tasks at hand. How are you gentle with yourself and others?

 

Success and Happiness

Success cannot be measured in material things and money; these do not guarantee happiness. Success and happiness come from valuing your abilities, celebrating the positive, appreciating the present and being flexible.
~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

What is success (to me)? Success is my ability to appreciate each moment, to celebrate the positive points in my life, to face the challenges head-on, to be open to learn new things, to be decisive and goal-oriented, and to look forward. Success is what I make of it, as thoughts become reality.

I make a point to think positive thoughts. I try not to entertain negative thoughts especially those of others. Only my thoughts truly count. I count my blessings and appreciate the present moment.

Each hour affords us 3600 seconds to which I wish to use wisely and positively; because once they are spent, they are gone. I cannot get those seconds back. We are not guaranteed time. So, we need to appreciate each moment we have and use each moment to promote joy and love in our lives and in the lives of others.

I try to celebrate the positive aspects of my life. This helps me to stay focused to the important anti-bullying work that I do. Reliving the negative would only serve to distract me sending me into a downward spiral to despair. Why go there? Each of us has an abundance of positive moments in our lives that we can embrace and celebrate. This brings joy to our lives, which is followed by productivity and success.

I embrace new learning experiences and face challenges head-on. I am open to new ideas and opportunities to create a solution. I can detach myself from old ways of thinking when they no longer serve me. Possibilities are endless to those who can see beyond what they think they already know.

Success comes when I have a vision. I look to the future. My past mistakes have given me the fortitude and experiences from which to build. I have learned what does not work. Success becomes inevitable. Happiness follows as I have grown to appreciate myself, my abilities, the present moment and all the loved ones in my life.

Inspiration

Inspiration. Feel your way and move into your inspiration.

Inspiration is an internal movement or feeling that drives people to do something of significance. It is a positive emotional state that gets people going because their hearts are in a happy stir. This is what gets a person to act on whatever their dream or goal may be. Inspiration can come from God, nature, meditating, people, events, music, movies, art, education… inspiration can come from anything especially if it something new to them.

Nature is one of the best sources of inspiration as everything in nature is balanced so beautifully. The cycle of life and the movement of energy in nature is wonderfully orchestrated, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Energy flows from the nutrients of the soil into the roots of plants and into the systems of animals. As animals pass waste (through their systems) or die, their wastes are broken down by bacteria back to the nutrients that are then returned to the soil.

Standing in the midst of such bustling activity is truly inspirational. As we approach the vernal equinox you can see evidences of spring awakenings as the apical meristems bud forward on every tree and shrub. The songbirds are returning and are starting to nest. The weather is getting warmer, the days are getting longer and so the inspiration flows.

Meditating and simply sitting in quiet can bring inspiration. After one is able to quiet his or her mind, then true inspiration from one’s inner wisdom will rise. For many, sitting in silence and allowing the mind to quiet down is quite a challenge. Soft, instrumental meditative music can be helpful, as one sits in a comfortable position and breathes deeply.

If there is too much noise in your head, a great activity to do first is to write all the thoughts that are floating around in your mind. You can also doodle these thoughts until you feel your mind grow quiet. Then, try meditating again. Another good way to meditate is to repeat one word or a sound in your mind or aloud softly, like “breathe” or “ohm”. There is not one absolute way to meditate; simply do what is best for you to get you into a quiet space. Sitting out in nature also helps many people to get to a quiet place in their mind so they can mediate and become inspired.

Conversations with others can equally be stimulating and inspirational. These conversations can be with like-minded people or with completely polar opposites, where there may be some debate. A person can gain perspective that way, even is he or she does not agree on an issue or topic. Brainstorming with others, especially where there is an intention or goal in mind, can be a very good source of inspiration and shift a person to act.

Inspiration can come from all forms or genres of music, art, movies and events. There are multiple sources of inspiration as long as you are open to them. Try doing something different and new like: a new beverage or food, a new activity or visit a new shop or café. Strike up a conversation with someone new. What is something you have wanted to try or do? What is stopping you to just try it? See if that inspires you. Some good questions to ask yourself are: What would I do if I had all the courage in the world? Who would I like to emulate and why? What would they do? What do I feel most passionate about? What brings a burning desire in my heart? What fires me up? What is my source of inspiration? Feel your way and flow into your inspiration.

Authenticity

How does one define authenticity? Authenticity is the state of being real, truthful, genuine and/or sincere. One of the hardest things to do is to be authentic when you do not know who you are. Defining yourself and your purpose builds confidence and authenticity; furthermore, with authenticity, you build relationships based on love and trust.

That is great if you know who you are; but, suppose you are not clear on your purpose and/or who you truly are? A good place to start is to place yourself in front of a mirror and state your name, “I am…[insert your name]” Then follow this up with all those positive affirmations that you know are true about yourself, “I am smart; I am open to new ideas; I am a good listener; I am a good friend; I am a great parent; I am wonderful spouse; I am…” Allow the list to go on and on.

Then write these positive affirmations down on notes you can stick all over the place to remind you of exactly all the wonderful things you are. Also, consider all the activities and events that bring you joy. Write these down in a notebook or journal, along with all the positive affirmations. Reflect on these, as these begin to define who you are authentically.

Guess what? You are what you think you are. You become your words and your thoughts. Also, you get to choose those words and thoughts every single day and every single moment of your life. There are many methods to help people clarify who they are and their purpose. A phenomenal way to gain clarity is through life coaching and/or mental health counseling. Now, consider the following, are you being true to yourself and others? What are you thinking right now? Are they positive thoughts?  Remember, thoughts become reality.

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