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People are Mirrors (Dr. Angi’s Law #10)

DR. ANGI’S LAW #10

 

People are mirrors; they reflect what you give! ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

This law almost always holds true for me especially when I give positive energy, love and kindness. If you think about all your experiences both positive and negative, you will see it is often true for you, too. When you are happy, others are happy. When you are upset, others become upset. When you are enthusiastic, others are enthusiastic.

When you go into a situation where others are in a different emotional state than you, keep in mind that you may also be influenced and reflect back to them what they gave you. This is fine and well, if it is a positive emotional state; but if it is negative, you still have a choice. You can choose to parrot them or you can choose to be positive. Choosing love, joy and kindness takes practice. It will not always be easy, but it is not impossible. Remember, what you give is what you will receive!

Creativity

Creativity is what you make of it; everyone is creative, as each of us are capable of making things. ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

‎Why is it that many equate creativity with being able to paint, draw and the like? Creativity is really about being able to visualize beyond the norm. Creative people do not see obstacles or problems; instead, they see solvable challenges. Many may even get a charge out of it. They thrive when faced with a challenge because it provides an opportunity to try something new and to experiment.

Creativity is looking at things upside down instead of right-side up. Creativity is using different tools and materials in a new way to achieve different effects. Creativity is seeking tools and/or materials when others do not work or are unavailable. For example, suppose you ran out of dish soap. Creative people would find seek alternatives such as a bar of soap, shampoo, laundry detergent, lemon juice, vinegar, etc.

Creative people are often: inventive, inquisitive, optimistic, enthusiastic, energetic, determined and open to possibilities. They are not attached to one idea. They are comfortable with surprises. In fact, many creative people get excited with unexpected outcomes.

Children are naturally creative. They are open to try new things and experiment. Unfortunately, too many adults teach children that there is only one way to do various things “right”. They give them rules, procedures and routines to the point where these children lose sight of their creative nature. They succumb to only doing things one way because they want to please and be loved.

Too much television watching and video game playing also zap creativity out of humanity. Sometimes it seems that the days where we used our imagination are gone. We have grown dependent on doing things only one way; but, it is not too late to develop our creativity. We only need to challenge ourselves with little problems.

Playing the “what if” game is a good way to enhance our creativity. Again, children are great at doing this. Remember all the “what if” questions you used to ask or your children asked you? What if don’t have this, that or the other? What if it rains? What if the store is closed? What if they aren’t home? What if everything were the color purple? What if there were no spoons? You can go on and on.

Another great activity to do is to invent new purposes for various items like a paper clip, a sponge or whatever. What are other uses for a towel, a hair brush, a toothbrush, an old car tire, etc? This can be quite fun to do and a great way to develop and expand your creativity. Can you think of some other ways to develop your creative ability? I can. And so can you!

Identifying Social Styles of Others

Each social style expresses distinct behaviors that can be easily identified. Common behaviors of each social style will be listed below. Use these lists to guide you in identifying the social styles of others in your life. You will see overlapping behaviors as these behaviors are not necessarily unique to just one social style. (Note: This is based on the book “How to Deal with Annoying People” by Bob Phillips and Kimberly Alyn).

Alphas (Thinkers):

  • Think before they speak
  • Talk softly and slowly
  • Eat slowly
  • Perform tasks with reflection or careful consideration
  • Follow instructions
  • Thrive on facts
  • Enjoy details
  • Display good manners
  • Dress conservatively
  • Are on time or early
  • Do not display emotion
  • Make mindful decisions
  • Are private
  • Can be overly critical
  • Stay extremely focused
  • Want things done correctly the first time
  • Stay organized
  • Examine all possible alternatives
  • Play the devil’s advocate
  • Are “letter of the law” people
  • Can be rigid, inflexible or stubborn
  • Are very responsible
  • Like planning
  • Can be nagging
  • Can be narrow-minded

Betas (Doers):

  • Speak before they think
  • Talk quickly and boldly
  • Eat quickly
  • Can perform many tasks at once
  • Can be insensitive
  • Make direct eye contact
  • Dislike details
  • Tend to intimidate people
  • Are on time or early
  • Do not display emotion
  • Make quick decisions
  • Like to lead
  • Can overpower people
  • Are fearless
  • Do not like chitchat
  • Possess high energy
  • Dress powerfully
  • Are opinionated
  • Can be stubborn or obstinate
  • Face conflict head-on
  • Are impatient
  • Despise excuses
  • Can be intolerant
  • Appear arrogant
  • Very assertive; can be belligerent
  • Show great initiative
  • Very confident
  • Have tremendous willpower
  • Work at top speed
  • Sarcastic

Gammas (Sociables):

  • Speak with a friendly tone
  • Talk softly and slowly
  • Are great listeners
  • Like to please people
  • Prefer to follow
  • Like to volunteer
  • Dislike conflict
  • Are very courteous
  • Avoid decisions
  • Seek approval
  • Are very humble
  • Possess extreme patience
  • Avoid attention
  • Encourage people
  • Are generous and giving
  • Can make excuses
  • Are very cooperative
  • Do not like criticism
  • Are very likeable
  • Can be insecure
  • Can be overly dependent
  • Move slowly (on things)
  • Can be overly sensitive
  • Are not assertive
  • Display loyalty
  • Are diplomatic
  • Value cooperation
  • Put people before tasks
  • Show compassion
  • Tend to procrastinate

Deltas (Thespians):

  • Speak before they think
  • Talk quickly and loudly
  • Eat quickly
  • Are visionaries (dreamers)
  • Adapt to anything
  • Are overly relaxed about time
  • Can be undisciplined
  • Are big risk-takers
  • Have a hard time following through
  • Dress uniquely
  • Have short attention spans
  • Unpredictable
  • Love spontaneity
  • Are very enthusiastic
  • Highly energetic
  • Love to talk
  • Dismiss what other people think
  • Tell it like it is
  • Dislike details
  • Like to socialize
  • Are creative and imaginative
  • Are outspoken and outgoing
  • Can be rebellious
  • Motivate and inspire people
  • Possess flexibility
  • Prone to exaggeration
  • Lack focus
  • Have a great sense of humor
  • Dislike rules
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