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Grateful for Kindness (TY-15)

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We are blessed to be in a world where most people value kindness and compassion. I am extremely grateful for kindness and those who practice it daily. Witnessing kindness in action is one of the most uplifting events to observe.

I am grateful to be able to practice love and kindness daily in every aspect of my life. Love and kindness brings such value to my life and my purpose. I am an advocate of kindness and I delight in promoting love and kindness in everything I write, paint and do. Focusing on kindness, brings more kindness to myself and others. Kindness is the center of my being.   I profoundly appreciate kindness.

True Nobility

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Dr. Wayne Dyer has often said that TRUE NOBILITY is really NOT about being better than everyone else. It is about being better than you used to be. It is shedding the mantra of the ego, “what’s in it for me?” and practicing the mantra of one’s highest self, “how may I serve?” Dr. Dyer feels that there is no greater model of that than the man who lived in Assisi (Saint Francis).

I believe each of us are gradually awakening to this higher spirit within ourselves, where we can shed the self-serving habits. We are developing our loving and compassionate hearts and spirits by practicing love and kindness, no matter the circumstances. We are beginning to show our capacity and ability to be pure love to one another, to all living creatures, to our environment and to our world.

Everything in our world are our sisters and brothers. We get to share our pure and unconditional love to our sister butterflies, brother birds, sister flowers, brother sun and sister moon. We get to live from the place within us where there is no condemnation, no judgment, no criticism towards any of God’s children, anywhere! The moment we can love that of which we most fear or hate, then we will know pure, unconditional love that of which is Jesus Christ and God (and all the higher spirits of the Universe). We DO have the ability! We can be love for each other and the world. I believe this to be awesome and wonderful.

A Little Does A Lot!

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I know I have shared similar sentiments about the importance of kindness, but I believe it bears to be retold over and over again as I find more and more on the positive benefits. Besides the obvious benefit of bringing joy to receiver, kindness brings joy to the giver; as I believe most of you know. But, did you know that people who witness kindness in action also get a benefit from this event? Yes, indeed. One act of kindness touches at least three hearts: the heart of the recipient, the heart of the giver, and the heart of the witness or observer. A little kindness does a lot!

Multiple scientific studies have shown that the act of kindness has a positive effect on the immune system and on the increased production of serotonin in the brain. Serotonin is a naturally occurring neurotransmitter that has a calming, mood regulating, and anti-anxiety effect. Serotonin is considered a joy-inducing substance because it serves as a pathway(a catalyst) for delight in the brain. The function of most anti-depressant medications is to stimulate the production of serotonin chemically, which helps ease depression.

One of the most fascinating research findings to come out in recent years is that whenever a simple act of kindness is extended by a human being towards another, it results in a significant improvement in the functioning of the immune system and increased production of serotonin in the giver, recipient and the observer of the simple act of kindness. (Read more: http://undergroundhealthreporter.com/act-of-kindness#ixzz2FRdItP3o) A Harvard study called this the Mother Teresa Effect because a group of over 130 Harvard students were tested before and after viewing a film on the life of Mother Teresa for an important antibody found in their saliva important to their immune system. The students had a noteworthy increase in this antibody after watching the charity works of Mother Teresa in her life story.

You can do your own research. How do you feel after watching a program like Extreme Makeover Home Edition or Touched by an Angel, where people are uplifted by other people? I am willing to bet you feel wonderful. I also believe that as we approach significant holidays like Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, and Christmas where you people see more goodwill and acts of kindness, there is a greater amount of joy in the hearts of all the people involved. Furthermore, there are more heart-warming movies being broadcast on television and shown in the movie theaters. How do you feel after doing a good deed? How do you feel when you see someone performing a good deed? How do you feel when someone helps you out?

According to the Journal of Psychiatry and Neuroscience, “Non-pharmacological methods of raising brain serotonin may not only improve mood and social functioning of healthy people — a worthwhile objective even without additional considerations — but would also make it possible to test the idea that increases in brain serotonin may help protect against the onset of various mental and physical disorders.” According to experts, the following strategies to raise serotonin levels are worthy of further investigation: the power of suggestion (viewing acts of kindness or suggesting to yourself to be joyful), exposure to bright light (like being outdoors in the sunshine), exercise (runner’s high comes to mind), and diet (eating well-balanced foods that you enjoy).

The benefits are many, but the take home message is: A little KINDNESS does A LOT! Now, the task is to narrow the list of what you can do to spread kindness around because the opportunities are truly endless. What are your favorite acts of kindness to do, observe or receive? My favorites are sharing and receiving a heartfelt smiles, sincere compliments and undivided attention.

 

Use Words for Encouragement

Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them. Ephesians 4:29 NLT

Kind words that are spoken to others are not only good and helpful, but these words also lift the spirits of both the recipient and the speaker of those words. It is a double blessing as well as being an act of love and compassion.  In order to let everything we say be good and helpful, we are given the opportunity to take pause to reflect and think before we speak. We get to take time with others. We are afforded the chance to be deliberately mindful and kind. Then in turn, our words will be encouraging and may be even inspiring to those who hear them. Now, that is a beautiful gift.

One of my favorite quotes that reinforces today’s message that I never grow tired of hearing and expressing is from Mother Teresa: Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their
echoes are truly endless.

Also, making the rounds on the internet is the “Before You Speak…THINK” campaign. The campaign’s anagram uses THINK, which conveys the above bible quote beautifully: “Before you speak, THINK: Is it true? Is it helpful? Is it inspiring? Is it necessary? Is it kind?” I used these words to create the above image to go with today’s message. Feel free to share it as long as you keep my website information on it. May this inspire you over the holidays as we mingle with friends and family whom we have not seen in a while (for one reason or another). Be the change you wish to see in the world and in them. THINK. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Harm No One!

On this Halloween night, I hope everyone is taking precautions to stay safe.

Let us remember to be watchful and aware.

Equally important is for us to be kind, loving and fair.

Tricks and mischief can only hurt…

with evil intentions we should not flirt.

Treats always come to those who are kind and sweet!

HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

 

 

Gift Of Love #36

As I have given an update on my Gift of Love campaign yesterday, I also discussed how each bag has a story. Gift of Love #36 has a very special story. It has an image of praying hands with 3 hearts surrounding them. The three hearts represent God the Father, God the Son and God the Holy Spirit.

I spent a lot of time on the hands because I wanted them to look as reverent as possible. I, also, felt deeply connected with the Holy Spirit as I painted this. I really sensed that God was guiding me through this Gift Of Love. In fact, as I have progressed with this series of Gift of Love bag paintings, my connection with God and Spirit became more and more profound. It is extraordinarily validating. I know I am doing what I need to do. Have you ever felt this kind of connection in your work?

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Belonging

Ricky, the name used here for the young man in the video has been a victim of bullying and teasing. Here is his story:

Sometimes
I Feel
Like I
Need
to be
Someone
Else
So that
People will
Like me
And I Will
Belong to
Their group
But really
If they don’t
Like me
For Who I am
They’re not worth
Acting for
Personally
I Think
That Everyone should
Just Be Themselves
No One should Judge them…(see video for more).

The wisdom of this young man is beyond his years. He truly has understanding. May we all learn from him. He belongs. We belong. We all need to just get along. Love and kindness are the solution.

Kindness (Dr. Angi’s Law #7)

 

 

 Dr. Angi’s Law #7

 

Kindness breeds kindness. ~ Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

Smile and the world smiles with you. When you bestow kindness upon others, kindness is paid forward. As you make someone’s day, do they become negative, bitter or angry? Certainly not. They start to glow, smile and become positive. This in turn will fuel an act of kindness for the next person. (There are videos of this on YouTube.)

At first it may take practice to choose love, joy and kindness; but soon it will become second nature. As you live in kindness, you will see more and more kindness in the world. You will see more people smiling at you and you will feel more positive energy around you. Kindness really breeds more kindness.

 

Practicing Patience

A gift of love and kindness is made when practicing patience, especially with children and those with less experiences. ~Dr. Angela Kowitz Orobko

There are times in our lives when holding our actions and our tongues are easier, but there are many times when it is harder. It is important to take a few moments to remember who we are, who they are and what kind of outcome would we like to see during these harder times. It takes self-discipline and patience.

Children and many adults can try our patience, but when we choose love, compassion and understanding, the outcome of the situation raises our level of energy to one that is more positive. Being love for each other is what Jesus would have us do because ultimately it brings out the best in everyone involved in those trying situations in our lives. It creates a life with little regret. It creates a joyful existence for ourselves where we bring joy and happiness to others through the practice of patience.

This brings to mind one of my favorite Bible verses:

1 Corinthians 13:4-7

New International Version (NIV)

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Consider mentally stepping back from any situation, whether sitting in heavy traffic, in the office with a menacing co-worker or with your more petulant than usual loved ones at home; and, take ten seconds to breathe slowly, and tell yourself, “I am where I need to be; worry and other negative feelings is not going to change the situation; choosing love and joy will make me feel better and may make the situation better for others, too.” Mentally rehearsing these statements in neutral/positive times will make it easier to put it into action during those negative times when you need them the most. Practicing patience truly is one of the best gifts we can give each other (and ourselves).

Milk of Kindness

A GLASS OF MILK (an embellished true story)

One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry. He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door.

Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water! . She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it so slowly, and then asked, How much do I owe you?”

You don’t owe me anything,” she replied. “Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness.”

He said … “Then I thank you from my heart.”

As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit.

Many years later that same young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease.

Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes.

Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room.

Dressed in his doctor’s gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once.

He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to her case.

After a long struggle, the battle was won.

Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge, and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words …

“Paid in full with one glass of milk”

(Signed) Dr. Howard Kelly.

Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: “Thank You, God, that Your love has spread broad through human hearts and hands.”

I have learned (through Snopes.com) that this beautiful story is based on a true story; however, it has been embellished a bit to make it even more heart-warming. Dr. Howard Kelly was born in 1858 and lived until 1943. He became a distinguished physician and one of the founders of Johns Hopkins Hospital and University (the first medical research university in the United States). In 1895 he established the department of Gynecology and Obstetrics at the medical school.

According to a first-hand account biography written by Audrey Davis, a long time friend of Dr. Kelly’s, the story of the bill paid in full by the glass of milk is true. Here is the real account:

On a hiking trip up through Northern Pennsylvania one spring, Howard Kelly stopped by a small farmhouse for a drink of cool spring water. A little girl answered his knock and instead of water brought him a glass of fresh milk. After a short friendly visit, he went on his way. Some years later, that same little girl came to him for an operation. Just before she left for home, her bill was brought into her room and across its face was written in a bold hand, “Paid in full with one glass of milk.”

Here is an interesting fact about Dr. Kelly and the distinguished medical profession of the Victorian period and the turn of the 19th century. During his time as a physician he was known and criticized for charging inflated fees to those who could afford it, and underwrote 75% of his cases. In other words, a majority of his patients were given free medical care. Yes, it may have been on the backs of those who had more than enough money, but during his time there was no provisions like medical insurance or medic-aid for those who were less fortunate.

There’s a saying which goes something like this: Bread cast on the water comes back to you. The good deed you do today may benefit you or someone you love at the least expected time. If you never see the deed again at least you will have made the world a better place – And, after all, isn’t that what life is all about?